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The majority of U.S. Internet users are women. Whether to check the
temperature outside, find a date, Google a salad dressing, or plan a
vacation, the Internet has become an integral part of daily female
life. And the mouse does not stop there. One in three visitors to
adult websites is a woman. The idea that only men watch porn is a
myth.
Here’s another myth: All adult content and porn on the Internet is
dangerous territory. The “dark side of Cyberspace” has been blamed
for causing sexual addiction (which I will talk about in my next
column) and providing sexual predators a convenient place to hide,
find their victims and strike. But let me assure you that there are
also some sources of adult entertainment online that can help you
enhance sex in a positive and healthy way.
Start by checking out the new Internet guide at
LoveAndHealth.info, designed to help people responsibly use the
Internet to explore pleasure and sexuality. Two websites I recommend
for finding adult material that might appeal to you are
Libida.com and
Goodvibes.com. In
previous columns, I have mentioned their selections of erotica, but
they also offer a wide range of DVDs for everyone’s tastes. Reviews
written by staff members help you make a selection among the many
different films.
Defining quality adult entertainment is, of course, completely
subjective. According to Good Vibrations’ senior buyer, Coyote Days,
they like their video choices to meet certain criteria: “Are the
performers having a good time? Are they enthusiastic? Is there
chemistry? How is the filmmaking? Are people of color incorporated
in a way that doesn’t just support racial stereotypes? Is there
anything that stands out—a performance or performer? Soundtrack?
Cinematography? Are the women enjoying themselves? Does the film
include any focus on female sexuality or pleasure?” I really welcome
such an approach to selecting adult entertainment—it throws out all
the degrading stuff that is frequently off-putting to women.
Recently, several female directors have started making porn movies
aimed specifically at women’s tastes. More female-oriented porn
brings worthier options to women who enjoy enriching their sex
lives—either alone or with a partner. So if you have always thought
that porn is demeaning to women, maybe it’s time for you to take a
fresh look.
And for people who wish to take a more active approach when spicing
up their sex lives, there is a new twist, and it’s not just for
Paris Hilton. Many women, men and couples use video cameras to
record themselves while having sex, either for private viewing or to
share with others. Websites such as
iFriends.com
facilitate contact between viewers and individuals engaging in live,
webcam-recorded sex. I recommend that particular website, because
iFriends does not tolerate obscenity or hardcore pornography. They
haves strict ethical and safety guidelines that both visitors and so
called “chathosts” agree to adhere to, making this a responsible
option for exploring the voyeuristic side of you.
02/12/2008-02/18/2008
Reprinted from C-Ville Weekly